To Do or To Be: What Should Come First?

by Rebecca on February 11, 2013

Now that we are into the second month of 2013, I thought it would be a good time to think about goal setting.  On January 1st, everyone is excited about the 18 new things they want to accomplish in 2013, but now that we have moved into February a lot of those goals have already fallen to the waste side.  I want to propose that you look at goal setting differently this year than maybe you have in the past.

I heard one of my favorite speakers talk recently about setting goals, and though he has achieved remarkable things in his industry, he is not a huge goal setter.  This seems very counter-intuitive but he looks at goal setting differently than most.  He doesn’t focus on many DO GOALS, but he is very committed to BE GOALS.  Who are you ?

Goals are very important but it is always a mistake to determine what you are going to do before you determine what you want to be.  I think this has been well proven lately in the sports world with remarkable achievements by people who obviously were more focused on what they wanted to accomplish than on who they were on the inside.

One of the most powerful ways to determine what you want to be is to take some time to sit down and write out your eulogy.  I did this for the first time last year when I was working on my life plan with Building Champions.  It was a bit surreal as I was imagining what I would want people to say about me when I am no longer here.   What would my husband, kids, my friends, my team, and my clients say when someone asked them who I really was?

I wanted to be remembered as a caring person and someone who wanted the best for those around me.  I wanted to make a difference in people’s lives.  I wanted to be remembered for my honesty, trustworthiness, and generosity.

Writing your eulogy will help you figure out what is truly important to you, which is usually different than what you may think is important to you.  For me the number one thing that everything pointed back to is the importance of relationships in my life.   Honestly, that is something I inadvertently put on the back burner last year as I got too focused on what I wanted to DO in 2012.

If you are a leader, you cannot afford not to spend sometime figuring out who you want to BE.  Because at the end of the day, who we are on the inside ALWAYS shows itself in what we DO.  So do yourself and all those around you a favor and spend some time this month figuring out who you want to BE instead of just writing down what you want to DO.

So who is up for the challenge of changing your goal setting paradigm and working on your BE goals for 2013?

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